“I don’t know who you are, but I love you.”
This line is from the book V for Vendetta. It is shared from two strangers bonded through agony and suffering. There is something about impending death that sets things straight. I think this is why, often, when a question is posed to me, I think about the extremes. “Would I regret this if I died?” “Is it going to kill anyone?” I deeply value life and potential. This value is foundational for me and leaves little room for hesitation when it comes to things like love.
“Give your flowers to people while they’re still here.”
This is something my dad said to me and continues to reference. It’s the idea that you shouldn’t wait for someone to die to give them flowers or tell them you care for them. I do my best to let the people in my life know how deeply I feel about them. I don’t wait for tomorrow. I express gratitude and love openly.
“You can’t take it with you.”
Something my mom said often while I was growing up. It has encouraged me to be thoughtful about how I spend my time. It is also partly why I don’t get hung up about things like money.
Each of these quotes bolsters me and makes me quite blunt when expressing my opinions about others. I don’t really do insincere. I’m not good at it and so I don’t try. You need to know this to understand what comes next.
I’m not sure what’s in the air, but so many around me have hearts full of doubt and fear. I can feel their insecurities about their worth. These feelings have a heavy weight to them. They seem to burden those around me.
So, I need you dear reader to know this. If you are reading this right now, if my words have found you where ever you are, I love you. I see your beauty and magic bubbling beneath the surface. I hear the chuckle of your laughter. Even as you sit within the darkness of insecurity I see your light. You are worthy to me. You are valuable and important.
To the voices in your head that may be skeptical I also have a message. Be quiet and sit down. You are allowed to be in the car, but you don’t get to drive. You don’t get to torture this beautiful human being any more so knock it off.
Beautiful human being, I love you. If you’re mad at me, if I’m disappointed in you it changes nothing. I will keep loving you because we are all made of the same stuff. For me to hate you is for me to hate myself. For me to harm you is for me to harm myself. We share the same light and hope and potential. I choose to love you. I choose to accept your truth. This value and choice is hardwired into the foundation of my being.
I will love you as long as I walk this earth and hopefully even after I leave this place. I love you because of everything you are and everything you are not. I love you for your passion, for your conviction. I simply love you.
It is this love that makes me want better for you. I want you to see what I see. I want you to see how amazing you are. I want you to know that you are not alone. We are all here together on this tiny blue dot. I want you to choose to love you too.
Even if you don’t, it won’t matter, I will keep on loving you. Because I hope that through loving you and caring for you I can see me the way you do. I can see my worth and value. I can tell my insecurities to be quiet. If we can love each other I think we can save ourselves.
I love you with a steadfast love, unwavering and without need. Loving you feels good. It brings a smile to my face. It lifts me up. So, I’m gonna keep doing it. I will keep loving you and cherishing your presence on this planet.
There is nothing you can do that will change that. No action or argument or life change.